What have others experienced?
Maybe you’re like one of my clients, who we’ll call Emily. She believed that the critical voice is what keeps her motivated and she was scared that if you “love yourself” or have “self-compassion” it will mean that you will lose your edge and won’t be a high performer. By working with me, she’s found that positive energy is actually more motivating. Now she’s not wasting hours reviewing and overthinking the things she woulda, shoulda, coulda done better.
It could be that you are more like another client, who we’ll call Mary who was completely paralyzed by the idea of even trying to set a new goal because she felt like she had tried, succeeded, and then lost the progress. Now it feels 10x worse than before to even try. After our time together, she realized that if she talked to herself the way she talks to her children when they struggle, she could begin to create safety for herself emotionally. Now she’s willing to give it another try.